By not caring too much about what people think, I'm able to think for myself and propagate ideas which are very often unpopular. And I succeed.
If I had been a member of the academic establishment, I could have done other experiments.
I had a great many sex and love cases where people were absolutely devastated when somebody with whom they were compulsively in love didn't love them back. They were killing themselves with anxiety and depression.
Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human.
I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them.
Let's suppose somebody abused you sexually. You still had a choice, though not a good one, about what to tell yourself about the abuse.
In the old days we used to get more referrals, because people had insurance that paid for therapy. Now they belong to HMOs, and we can only be affiliated with a few HMOs.
People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection.
For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency.
I had used eclectic therapy and behavior therapy on myself at the age of 19 to get over my fear of public speaking and of approaching young women in public.
I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert.
I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit after practicing it for six years.
Many psychoanalysts refused to let me speak at their meetings. They were exceptionally vigorous because I had previously been an analyst and they were very angry at my flying the coop.
The art of love is largely the art of persistence.